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[thrive_text_block color=”note” headline=””]Step 3 to gain husbandly leadership is relatively short, but it is VITAL if you ever want to make real progress in your marriage. This single mistake has crippled many a marriage before yours, so pay attention, because this is going to be a difficult lesson to stomach.[/thrive_text_block]
Do you want your marriage back?
Do you want you and your wife to be able to get along happily, just like you did in the good ol’ days?
Then it’s time to stop the blame game.
I know that right now you feel like you’re the only one trying to save your marriage. And heck, you’re probably right. Chances are, your wife has checked out, and you feel like you’re playing a game of tug-of-war to get her back, except your end of the rope is lathered in grease.
But! Playing the blame will get you nowhere.
You either want your wife back or you don’t.
You either want a happy marriage or you don’t.
Make up your mind, and stick to it. Nothing else matters.
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If you hadn’t, you wouldn’t be where you are right now. If you ever want to move forward in your marriage, you need to recognize your part in where your marriage is at now.
Obviously, this is much easier said than done. It’s very easy to point fingers at your wife, to lament that she is not being the type of woman you could spend your life with… At least, not as things stand right now.
But rest assured… Marriage is a two-way street. For all the mistakes your wife has made (or is making), you have made just as many if not more.
Fortunately, there’s an up-side to all of this…
Mistakes Only Have as Much Power as
YOU Choose to Give Them
If you constantly dwell on the mistakes that your wife has made, if you let her mistakes take your focus off what you really want – a happy marriage with the woman of your dreams – then guess what? You’re letting her mistakes have all the power. You’re allowing her mistakes to rule the marriage.
Same goes if you’re focused on your own mistakes and you’re consumed with regret. If you let mistakes consume you, then you’ve already lost.
And this is really what it all comes down to:
[pullquote align=”normal”]Your mistakes don’t make you a bad husband, and her mistakes don’t make her a bad wife.[/pullquote]
Mistakes are just part of life, and problems are just part of marriage. All we can do is try to learn from them and move on.
As the leader, it’s your responsibility to be her rock. On your wedding day you swore to stand by her through thick and thin, and that means YOU have to be the one that pushes through whatever mistakes have been made in your marriage to accept your wife exactly as she is.
You will not be able to love your wife as a husband should until you can let go of the blame that you feel in your heart right now.
In Step 4, you’re going to learn the natural next step once you’ve let go of the blame you feel in your heart, both for yourself and for your wife.
[thrive_link color=’blue’ link=’https://inside.husbandhelphaven.com/lessons/step-4-forgive-her-nothing-clever-here/’ target=’_self’ size=’big’ align=’aligncenter’]Click Here to Go To Step 4[/thrive_link]