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[thrive_text_block color=”note” headline=””]Step 6 to gain husbandly leadership is about how you should be looking at your current and future marriage, and how you can optimize your outlook to make the most of each day. [/thrive_text_block]
Despite the title, this step actually isn’t about financial leadership. That comes later. Instead, it’s about your mindset.
[pullquote align=”normal”]Did you know that 95% of the world’s millionaires write down their goals on a regular basis? [/pullquote]
Why does this trend exist?
It’s because having a goal, one that you remind yourself of frequently, is proven to help you reach that goal faster and more effectively.
Successful people visualize where they’re going in life, and inevitably that visualization helps them make it a reality.
In other words…
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There have been numerous studies showing the effectiveness of written goal setting, and I urge you to take advantage of this powerful psychological tool.
And yes, you can apply this proven principle to your marriage.
Your goals should be divided into at least three categories (although in Manly Marriage Revival I break them down further into six). Those three main categories are: Short-Term, Long-Term and Lifelong goals.
[thrive_text_block color=”blue” headline=”SHORT-TERM GOALS:”]Your Short-Term Goals are the ones that you are focusing on right now. They’re the ones you want to achieve within the next 1 – 3 months.[/thrive_text_block]
[thrive_text_block color=”teal” headline=”MID-TERM GOALS:”]Your Mid-Term Goals are the ones that you will be able to reach by achieving a sequence of short-term goals. Instead of 1 – 3 months, you will reach these goals in 6 to 12 months.[/thrive_text_block]
[thrive_text_block color=”purple” headline=”LIFELONG GOALS:”]You could also call these your dreams. Your Lifelong Goals are exactly what they sound like. When you are 80 years old, what kind of life do you want to have lived? For example, one of my dreams is to celebrate my wife and I’s 50th anniversary someday.[/thrive_text_block]
Now It’s Your Turn to Create Goals for Your Marriage
I highly recommend you use this simple goal-setting method to set some concrete goals for yourself as a husband and your marriage. So, here are some examples… If you apply these types of goals to your marriage, here’s what they might look like:
[thrive_text_block color=”light” headline=””]Short-Term Goal Example: “I will work through the 10 Steps to Gain Husbandly Leadership and create a plan to apply them to my life.”
Mid-Term Goal Example: “I will be a confident and attractive leader in thoughts, words and actions. I will be satisfied with the man that I am apart from my wife. I will do whatever it takes to be able to look in the mirror and say ‘I am in control, this is my life, and I will like it.’”
Lifelong Goal Example: “I will live out a fulfilling marriage in which both my wife and I find complete joy in our relationship. We will be faithful, loving, and intimate with each other into old age. We will cling to each other through good times and bad, and my wife will never doubt that I am her rock.”[/thrive_text_block]
Something to note about these goals is that they are all directly under your control except for the last one. [thrive_highlight highlight=’#eeee22′ text=’dark’]Your Short- and Mid-Term goals should always be things that you have complete control over achieving.[/thrive_highlight]
Your dreams/long-term goals are so far off that just about nothing you could put there will be under your direct control, but that’s okay because these goals are meant to be more motivational than anything else.
Obviously, these are just examples. You should write your own. And if you are facing any specific obstacles, such as an affair, pornography, or emotional distance, you can incorporate those into your goals as well.
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The point is that goals give you a vision for your future. They give you something concrete to work towards. They are like stepping stones that you have planted yourself, in order to get where you want to go.
Don’t just think about your goals, write them down and keep them with you. Reflect on them every single day.
In fact, if you’re really serious about meeting your goals, re-write them down every week. This will really and truly cement them in your heart so that your whole self is oriented towards romantic success.
And remember, you can refine your goals as you go. You’re only halfway through the 10 Steps to Gain Husbandly Leadership, so I’m sure you will have some new goals on your list by the time we’re through. That’s okay! You just want to have SOME goals so you can move forward as efficiently as possible.
Step 7 is all about physical attraction. You’re going to learn the most obvious way to start rebuilding your wife’s feelings of physical attraction for you.
[thrive_link color=’blue’ link=’https://inside.husbandhelphaven.com/lessons/step-7-tuck-in-your-shirt/’ target=’_self’ size=’big’ align=’aligncenter’]Click Here to Go To Step 7[/thrive_link]